For most of my clients, I share a model early on that has been very effective for me to build my mental capacity to manage emotions. This is an important foundation.

Sometimes you need to get MESSy

To be of service to someone is to see that person as a whole — heart, body, mind, and spirit. In other words, people are not the problem they are going through. Your parent is not cancer. Your friend is experiencing unemployment; she is not unemployed. Seeing someone as a whole helps to explain why service is a relationship of equals. We all experience suffering just as we all experience joy.